I have served as a chaplain in the U. S. Army and in the Federal Prison System. Regardless of the setting I have heard the same phrase used, "stuck on stupid." This phrase is often used to describe individuals that just don't know how to help themselves. In other words, they allow their stupidity or hardheadedness to get in the way of their own accomplishments or advancement.
I have determined that many conflicts in our lives are a product of being "stuck on stupid." Conflict occurs when our desires are thwarted because of other individuals or a situation that stalls our desires. When conflict occurs we often "get in our feelings." When we are confronted with conflict we determine that we will win in conflict regardless of the ramifications. We determine before there is a chance for resolution, reconciliation, and restoration that we will not lose. When this occurs we are essentially - "stuck on stupid." In essence, we are determining that our pride and self-perseverance is more important than peace and unity. In fact, we are determining that saving face is more important than glorifying God.
Conflict happens! Conflict is not always a bad thing. Conflict can help produce positive advancement in our relationships and organizations. However, for positive outcomes to occur conflict must be handled and managed appropriately. Conflict can produce better understanding, more refined missions, visions and strategic plans. However, when we determine to be "stuck on stupid" conflict can result in disenfranchisement, disillusionment, and in some cases, dismissal.
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